A blog about the healing power of intimacy and love by Nicola Foster
The 5 Love Languages® by Dr Gary Chapman
Do you struggle to understand and communicate with your partner? Is lockdown adding more pressure? Do you wish your partner would appreciate you more them, but you’re not aren’t sure how to get them to do that? Then you may just find some answers within The 5 Love Languages®.
Dr Gary Chapman introduced the ‘The 5 Love Languages®’ way back in the 1990s. These five languages of love help you to better understand your partner’s needs so that you can strengthen and improve your relationship with each other.
When you want to feel loved and appreciated, it’s not always easy to explain how you expect that to look. Communicating your needs to your partner can be difficult, especially if you’re not sure how to even put it into words. And your partner probably has the same issue too!
The love languages help make it easier for you. They enable you to understand...
An overview and introduction to attachment theory and the 4 styles by Nicola Foster, Relationship Therapist and Coach.
Do you count kisses on your texts?
Do you love close connection but then find it’s too much?
Do reach out repeatedly to your partner more after a disagreement? (and find yourself surprised that you’re doing it!)
If you’ve answered yes to one of these, then there is a good chance you’ve been affected by attachment theory. This blog offers an introduction to the key principles of this fascinating topic of attachment theory. Understanding more about it could help you avoid some of the most common arguments and difficulties.
What is attachment theory?
Attachment theory is a powerful framework for understanding how we all differ in our approach to relationships. Attachment theory began with the work of Mary Ainsworth and John Bowlby in the 1950s. They studied how bonds formed between babies and their primary caregivers. What they...
Do you long for love – but notice that you find it hard to receive? Do you try to do everything yourself and never ask for help?
If you answered yes to both these questions then keep reading.
Hi, I’m Nicola Foster, I’m an experienced relationship therapist and in this blog I offer three ideas on receiving love.
Something I hear as a relationship coach is just how many people find it terrifying to actually let love in.
Many of us, me included, have experienced very painful relationship endings.
After betrayal, trusting someone again requires a huge leap of faith.
In dating and in relationships, this can show up as not wanting to accept offers of help, or appreciations or acts of love.
What tends to happen is that we deflect, or rush over anything that might feel like someone is putting our needs ahead of their own. Giving the impression that we’re not really “bovvered’ is very common!
For example: someone offers to pay and...